Do you ever wish you could go back to a previous time in your life and change a decision, take back what you said or did? I think we all have that feeling from time to time. Sometimes, depending on the circumstances, who is involved and what is happening, we can make some changes, by our words or actions change the outcomes. More often than not though, there isn’t the opportunity for a second go. We have to let go of the past regrets and move on. We have to make sure we stay healthy and well and not let doubt or regret or harsh words of others break our mind and spirit. Something I think we all battle with, is have we done the best we could over our lifetime for our loved ones? Could we have done more? Have any decisions or choices we made damaged our family, our children?

This brain whirl of questions, second guessing, and remembering past problems can have a detrimental effect on our health. Hopefully our family and friends are supportive, but this is often not the case. Not any deliberate intention on their behalf, they are probably battling their own demons. That is something worth remembering, that we are not the only person who has doubts, regrets and wishes we could go back and change the past. Most people have these thoughts. We can afford to be a little kinder to ourselves and others.

Sometimes others can be cruel, mainly as they are suffering their own brain whirl, or because of their own self preservation agenda. It is hard not to get caught up in their world, especially if they are giving you a hard time. It is also difficult to stay calm and not doubt yourself. It could be that whatever you do or say you will not be able to change their perspective of you and your words and actions.

This is the hardest part to deal with, if it is family. Easier to deal with if friends or work colleagues. Many times we feel we have failed our children or our parents. It can be heart breaking to realise that we may not be able to make amends. Personally I don’t think we should give up. Rather than focusing on what we have done wrong, on what others think and how others speak to us, let’s focus on a better, positive outcome.

Every day, be grateful for our family, children, parents and be grateful for the positive and healthy relationships. Think of only positive, and you will discover small ways to make positive headway, over time. We can not change the past, but we can create the future of our dreams. Refuse to give up, believe that miracles can happen.